Ok so a litle news on this at 3:33am hehe well the drive seems to work albeit more noisy than my seagate st-225 anyway....
the settings don't seem to match on this page
http://stason.org/TULARC/pc/hard-drives-hdd/rodime/RO204E-42MB-5-25-FH-MFM-ST506.html compared to what the bios said i should use so instead of:
Cylinders 640, Heads 8, Sector/track 32, Precompensation 0, Landing Zone 639
i used:
Cylinders 640, Heads 8, Sector/track 17, Precompensation 0, Landing Zone 639
the first one made the bios think that the drive was 80mb but the later mathes up at about 43mb and that seems to be right too, so the drive boots up or rather klonks heh but it's seen so i try a low level format on it with a seagate format program i found over here: version 4
http://ibm-pc.org/utilities/hdd/hdd.htm worked like a sharm and was faster than i expected, 15min maybe, after that a partitision with msdos 6.22 and normal format but that took long, proberly cause of the wrong interleave or something so i ran spinrite v3 from the same site and it got set to 2-to-1 i think.
So my conclusion is that this drive is fit even if it's never been used outside the factory
unless someone of you have anything else to add and i probably gave it some scratches on the connectors now too but i guess i can live with that as long as they arn't too deap.